Relationship intimacy: Ways to rekindle physical connection

Experts say many couples go through dry spells in sexual interest and describe communication, small daily touches, planned intimacy and attention to stress or medical factors as approaches reported to help rebuild closeness.

Many couples experience periods of low sexual interest. Experts emphasise that these dry spells are common and are not evidence that a relationship is failing. They point to life demands such as work, childcare, caregiving and health changes as factors that can reduce physical intimacy. Several therapists and commentators discuss a range of gradual, communication-focused approaches to rebuilding connection. Expert observations: - Dry spells are common and do not mean one or both partners are "broken," says Dr Tammy Nelson. - Dr Sara Nasserzadeh highlights that careers, raising children, caregiving and health changes can all affect physical intimacy. - Experts note that a narrow definition of sex can limit connection; non-penetrative activities such as long kisses, holding hands, oral sex, mutual masturbation and the use of toys are described as valid forms of sexual connection. - Several contributors emphasise communication: asking what felt good, stating preferences positively and creating a shared list of desired activities are reported as ways to open conversations. - Discussed approaches include responsive desire (starting intimacy even without initial arousal), scheduling time together, small daily touches to restore safety and connection, stress-management practices, and attention to medical causes of pain. Summary: Experts present a set of practical, relationship-focused options intended to rebuild erotic connection gradually. The impact will depend on which approaches couples pursue and how they apply them. Undetermined at this time.