My wife's post-sex recovery period limits us, and I considered recording sessions.

They have been together 12 years and, after a difficult birth two years ago, the wife's need for a recovery period limits sex to about once a week; the writer is considering recording a joint session for later solo use and was advised to weigh consent, comfort, and alternatives such as memory and mindfulness.

We have been together for 12 years and generally have a supportive relationship. After a physically difficult birth two years ago, my wife needs a recovery period after sex, which limits our sessions to about once a week. I prefer daily solitary release for my own mental well-being and have been handling that privately. I'm not comfortable with videos of strangers and wondered if recording one of our joint sessions for my solo use would be reasonable, since we have not exchanged racy messages or photos before. Known details: - The couple has been together for 12 years. - The wife's difficult childbirth two years ago is reported as the reason she needs a recovery period after sex. - That recovery period reportedly limits their partnered sex to about once a week. - The husband prefers daily masturbation for mental health and has done so privately to avoid pressuring his wife. - He would prefer to use material featuring his wife rather than outside pornography and proposed recording a joint session. - The response he received suggested relying on imagination and memories, using mindfulness and embodiment skills, and cautioned that asking a partner who has not previously shared explicit media could be combustible; the response also noted considering whether the wife has ever shown interest in exhibitionism or capturing her sexuality. Summary: The idea highlights tensions between one partner's physical recovery and the other's routine for stress relief, and it raises questions about consent, comfort, and privacy. Alternatives such as using memory, mindfulness, or other erotic interactions were suggested in the article; whether the couple will pursue recording or any alternative is undetermined at this time.